Quote Originally Posted by Kuve S View Post
Something I see a lot is the attitude that switching can't be a lifestyle in itself but has to be a transitional period. We see a lot of people demanding that we "make up our minds" just as bisexual people hear from the straight and gay communities. I made up My mind over 30 years ago that I was perfectly happy the way I was, Dom with some and sub with others. while I fully understand that some people do have a clear and solid preference why do they automatically assume that everyone else has to have one as well?
Maybe it is confusing for people who feel only one side to understand, and it makes them insecure.

Especially I think it is a problem for subs if their dom is a switch, because they think this person is not 'real' or will turn on them or something.

I have known doms who actually did not dare mention their sub side to their subs, but kept it as a guilty secret, or even were tough on other doms who showed both sides, or even on subs of their own gender.

I think it is all about feeling secure.

Switches probably have to feel very secure in their identity too, because of 'bad press' in some places.