Taps my computer screen...its quite impossible to actually do some things like hug or kiss or even spank someone online...all of which one would assume should be taken metaphorically.

Especially when greeting each other in the non-role play orientated colloquial setting of oh say...the bdsm library's chat room's lobby.

You will notice online its quite common for people to greet each other in ways that they simply do not do in real as well such as run around kissing or grouping or being sparkly or flying or being an actual animal in their head all the time.

You may also notice that in real life at any gathering of the actual community, at a munch or some such, the people act far more subdued than online.

They are far less talkative in general especially the submissives.

For instance I just typed all this without saying a single word out loud.

Additionally in an actual session or in high protocol venues there may be no talking at all going on between anyone but the dominants since we submissives have a tendency not to do such without permission or even respond in those cases to the inquires of others that are made too us without first looking to our dominant for permission etc.

Though imho its rather poor form to act like that at a munch since your bound to be still amongst the uninitiated and using a third person mode of speech there should get just as many strange looks as when people do it in a chat where they are "out of scene".

In other words a chat room lobby has its commonalities that do involve some metaphorical physical actions being pantomimed via text that are perfectly acceptable in that environment.

Its been my observation that the people who get the most bent about submissives in particular or anyone else speaking their minds in chat or following what have become normal forms of colloquial chat room behaviors are the kind of people who bring their fantasy world into a chat room or some other such venue with them and then get miffed when everyone else present doesn't play along with said fantasy. Its like they expect to be roleplaying the minute they log in to any given place and take anything typed around them as if its real and physically present. Which it isn't and (again taps my computer screen) cant be. Its also rather rude imho to think its acceptable to force everyone present in a chat room to adhere to any such condition that one brought with them.

Ironic since we are all really just sitting on our butts and typing a lot.