Quote Originally Posted by software View Post
Spankings and binding me up is too enjoyable to be punishment.
This is your quote from the original posting...but I digress.

Following along the same thought as ksst, rather than a physical punishment, perhaps the silent treatment would be a deterrent for you? To be completely ignored until proper deference is paid for the misdoing? You say that you're OCD and have control issues...rather than wracking your brain trying to come up with a proper punishment for what's seen as "misbehavior", perhaps a licensed therapist could recommend behavior modification exercises you two can practice together. Perhaps overcoming clinically diagnosed disorders shouldn't be included in your dynamic...especially since thus far, it's been unsuccessful.

Bottom line, if you've been corrected again and again for the same infractions, perhaps it's time to move away from the physical and more towards the mental aspect of correction, either through professional help if it's very bothersome to you both, or trying some simple techniques at home (silent treatment, not being permitted to call him "master" or say his name for a set amount of time...etc?).

At any rate, good luck to you.