Love

[ksst]

Wow, a lot of deep questions.

What is love? Love is a feeling that you know when you have it. I can't explain any better than that.

How does it show itself? This depends on the individual.
How does it change a person? It doesn't, you're still the same person as before one was in love, although you may do stupid things for a while.
How does it change your perception and your ideas of another person? In the early stage, infatuation, you might overlook all their faults. Later one, while still being in love, you know their faults and love them anyway.

What about love for other than persons? Pets? Countries? Books?
Eros is one kind of love, romantic, there is also brotherly love, parental love, love of things (I'd say this is more of a strong like, though, where we say love but it's not with the same attachment people feel to other people). Pets are in between things and humans I'd say. I love my pets more than my favorite books, but less than my human family.

Is all love monogamous?
No

Can you love only one? (at a time, or in your life) No, I love lots of people, just not in the romantic sense.

If you fall in love with someone, must you fall out of love with others?
No, not necessarily. I have only been in love once, but I think it is possible for others to be in love with more that one person at the same time (eros).

Does love and jealousy follow each other, or are they seperate

I think they are at times related, but you can be jealous with out love and you can love without jealousy.

Can you love without jealousy? Yes, some people can.
Can you be jealous without love? Yes, definitely.

Is crime passionel a sign of love, or of love dead? It's a sign of being unable to control your actions.

What causes crime passionel? Jealousy and lack of control, if that means what I think : Crime of passion?
Does society support the idea, and, if so, why?
Parts of society do, but not all of society. I believe this is changing to be less forgiving of people who commit those crimes.
Or did it, and is now changing attitude? If so, is that ok?
Yes. I keep answering the question ahead of time.

Do you think it is understandable/ok to kill the loved one? Not at all. Just leave if you can't stand it. There is no right to kill them. That is just evil.

Or to kill for love in other situations?
Only if your loved one is directly threatened and you kill someone to protect them from the same fate. I also believe in mercy killing (euthanasia) in cases of terminal illness, and believe that to be an act of love.

D/s and love

Can you have a D/s relationship if there is also love? Yes, I do
Can you have a D/s relationship without love? Other people do, so I'm sure it's possible.

[thir]

Wow, a lot of deep questions.

All the more thanks for answering them ;-)

What is love? Love is a feeling that you know when you have it. I can't explain any better than that.

See all the new ones.

I love my pets more than my favorite books, but less than my human family.

There I think I am possibly rather different from most people, because I love my animals just as much as humans, and always have. People do not understand it, and perhaps neither do I, really, but it is a fact.

. I have only been in love once, but I think it is possible for others to be in love with more that one person at the same time (eros).

I am thinking, among other things, about all the cases we hear about where one person in a relationship finds out about the bdsm need in the middle of a relationship, and with a partner who is not interested. If it was generally accepted (as much as it is now generally un-acceptable) that you can love more than one, then maybe more people could find happiness in loving in two different ways: their husband/wife and their Master/Mistress.

Is crime passionel a sign of love, or of love dead? It's a sign of being unable to control your actions.

Does mean that a crime of passion might just as well be in anger over something - anything, really - where you loose your head?

Only if your loved one is directly threatened and you kill someone to protect them from the same fate. I also believe in mercy killing (euthanasia) in cases of terminal illness, and believe that to be an act of love.

Agreed on both accounts. If it ever came to that, I would be happy to have my dear Leo9 assist me into the void, if could be done legally.

[Thorne]

I love my animals just as much as humans, and always have. People do not understand it, and perhaps neither do I, really, but it is a fact.

You might think so, but I tend to doubt it. But let's try a couple of examples:
Let's assume that you are on a low bridge over a flooded, raging river. Just downstream is cataract dropping into a rocky canyon, certain death for anyone going over the edge. Coming towards you are two children, trapped in the flood. You can save one, but not both of them, as the are separated in the flow. One of those children is your own. Which would you save?

I don't think anyone would condemn you for choosing your own child over a stranger, and I think most people would make that same choice. But now, replace your child in the water with your beloved pet. Would you allow even a stranger, a child you do not know and love, to die in order to save your pet? I very much doubt it! I think there are few sane people in this world who would.

[thir]

You might think so, but I tend to doubt it. But let's try a couple of examples:
Let's assume that you are on a low bridge over a flooded, raging river. Just downstream is cataract dropping into a rocky canyon, certain death for anyone going over the edge. Coming towards you are two children, trapped in the flood. You can save one, but not both of them, as the are separated in the flow. One of those children is your own. Which would you save?

I don't think anyone would condemn you for choosing your own child over a stranger, and I think most people would make that same choice. But now, replace your child in the water with your beloved pet. Would you allow even a stranger, a child you do not know and love, to die in order to save your pet? I very much doubt it! I think there are few sane people in this world who would.

I kind of knew someone would say that. And I do not know what to answer - that pets are also my children.

Did you see the film 'Sophie's Choice'? A KZ camp prisioner, a mother with two children, were forced to choose which one should go in the gas chamber, or they would both have gone. She chose. But she was never a real person after that.

[Thorne]

I kind of knew someone would say that. And I do not know what to answer - that pets are also my children.

I have difficulty with this concept, but then, I'm not a pet person. I just cannot grasp the idea that someone would put the welfare of any animal above the welfare of even an unknown person.

Did you see the film 'Sophie's Choice'?

No, I've never seen it. But people, both men and women, have been facing such choices since the dawn of humanity. It's a choice I wouldn't want to have to make myself. But we're not talking about choosing between two of your children, but between a child, or any person really, and an animal! One shouldn't even have to think about it.