Having been in a D/s relationship myself, I being the Domme, I can tell you that anything and everything that goes on happens because YOU, the sub, allows it. Since you are new to this type of relationship, may I advise that you google D/s relationships, read and take the time to figure out what you want before you proceed. Then ask your partner what he/she would like and what you both expect. You control everything because it is you that is giving up the power.

And there are different types of D/s relationships. Some just stays in the bedroom. Some have it woven into everyday life. Some have a "lifestyle" and play with other D/s couples. Decide what you want after researching, discuss w/ your partner then play and have fun