Quote Originally Posted by Ozme52 View Post

Would you not admonish a dominant who tested his sub's ability to take a beating rather than judge/evaluate/learn that perfect moment where his or her body is ready to respond to a beating orgasmically?
Then again, how do your judge/evaluate without having tested - that is, having had experience - with your sub?

Would you not admonish a dominant who tested his submissive by trying to force them to use their safeword?
No. I think it is a natural thing to do.

IMO if you want more from your dominant or submissive, that's what 'tween-play conversations are for. The negotiations that occur in all relationships as boundaries require adjustments, as time spent together (and how it is spent together) is increased or decreased, as new (or old) activities are (re)explored.
Sometimes it is simpler and more natural to do it in the situation. I guess it is a matter of preference.

Testing is, (again, my opinion,) tantamount to doubting.
Doubt is also natural. But might also be simply a little reassuring. Or even a flirt.