Umm..I think it would be very selfish and more than a little mean for someone to tell you how to behave now in comparison to how you were years ago.

I mean, if you want to behave as you see fit and not be pushy or anything like that I think you've very clever for working out your feelings and explaining clearly to other people. I mean showing respect is important and all that but I would say that in the rooms on the site, if people can't deal with the new you then really the problem is at their end.

Umm, I hope that makes some sense.