High fives kisa!

I happen to be a slave in real life myself, but you dont see me bowing and scrapping in chat to anyone I dont see as more dominant than I am do you? (unless Im playing a game of pretend with them for some reason at least)

There is nothing wrong whatsoever in a submissive or slave topping someone else for pleasure, or to teach, as a learning experience, a service, or because one was ordered too etc or just becuase one felt like it.

We all sit on different levels in relationship to each other on the ole dominance hierarchy tree and if one is more or less dominant than another individual at any given time its dependent on a combination of many factors.

The people who are trying to tell you otherwise simply don't know what they are talking about or are full of online misconceptions about the lifestyle or think the lobby of every chat room is supposed to be a role play orientated experience where one's "character class" reads as Dom, sub, whatever and they get penalized by the story teller if they don't follow some made up cookie cutter alignment restrictions lol or they just have a really sensitive and fragile ego.

One persons dominant may be another's submissive or vice versa, it all depends on the situation and the choices of the individuals in their own dynamic and who they precieve each other to be at the time depending on the situation...which can be a lot more fluid than some think at any given time. Which is all part of phycology and human social interatction...even in the vanilla world. That woman who may be a bitch of a autocratic boss at work may also be someone elses collared slave at home.

Complaints by people who call one a domme in denial or say that your topping from the bottom are just making excuses for their own insecurity conserning their own dominance imho.