Ah I think I understand now, thankyou for clarifying that.

Hmm, I actually am coming from leaving behind a conservative religion as of two years ago, does this satisfy your concern that I may look to the group for guidance too readily?

I suppose I'm not really looking for validation, but sometimes I have fetishes that concern me on account they may not be too realistic. Sometimes I want to get a little feedback and critique on it because I'm not really sure. So I would like to know other people's thoughts and experiences to see if there is anything else I can make use of or that might help me decide. I don't want to be told exactly what I want, I want to try to incorporate experience I don't have.

I like that your saying as well. One of my concerns for my slaves is the possibility she may obey me to readily. Of course I expect plenty of "yes Master", "thankyou Master" and other submissive behaviors etc... etc... but I also want to impress upon her the import of placing her health needs, for example, first before obedience even.

I have already decided that the first part of my courting concept will involve not training or submission per say but a sort of preparation for appropriateness. That's rather vague, I still need to work out the details on this so forgive me if it is difficult to understand. I think I am going to write what I will call "Articles of Submission" which will detail a series of rules and stipulations about play which she must know and understand prior to undertaking any actual training or any actual submission. Example of stipulations might be "the slavegirl is not giving up her rights" "The Master and slave are equals" "the slave is not prohibited from leaving the harem" "this is an elaborate roleplay, a pretense" etc.. etc... things she must know in order to ensure her safety. I know not to take anything anyone tells me just because they said so and while I may own my slave, I expect her to speak up if she has any concerns for her safety and health as well. I have every intention of course of taking responsibility as a Dominant and thinking and taking considerations (one of the reasons I'm not looking for a harem slave yet) but I also need the slave to speak for herself at times as I cannot know everything and she may think of something I have not for any number of reasons. One example might be for the fact that she is intimately more familiar with the female body than I am, and my Dominance over her does center around her sexuality, something which I, as a man, will always be able to learn only so much about.