Newbie

[Austerus]

Hey 10K, welcome to the forums. A few things.

1) There's no such thing as a monolithic "fetish lifestyle." It's much more like a very loose confederation of independent tribes than it is a nation. SSC is something all good people take seriously, but beyond that anyone who talks about "real" BDSM/doms/subs/kinks/whatever is full of it, and anyone who claims the authority to speak for the community as a whole is a charlatan. (yes, I said charlatan. Why? Apparently I live in a Charles Dickens book)

2) I've never heard of this supposed anti-porn bent, but I'll go out on a limb and say anyone in the kink community who frowns on people for watching porn is an insufferable douchebag. Period.

3) Don't rush into a TPE situation. Start slow online, then move slow in RL. Rushing into something or trying to bite off more than you can chew is the fastest possible route to a bad situation. It's not a race, and it's not like all the good slaves are going to be gone a week, or a month, or a year, or five years from now. There's plenty of fish in the sea and life is long.