So far I've been lucky and just kinda fell into it. I think I've always been playing around with a bit of self-bondage when I masturbated, although back in my sheltered teenage years I didn't associate it with kinky s&m stuff (hell, I'm not sure I even knew about kinky s&m stuff). Then along came college and the internet, which not only told me what it was I was getting off on, but also reassured me that it was perfectly normal and healthy and fun (which pretty much confirmed what I'd already figured out on my own).

So basically by the time I finally got out there and started getting nekkid with other people (it took a while, because for a while I still thought of myself as the nerdy guy from back in highschool), I'd managed to figure out what it is that i like without any accompanying guilt or emotional baggage.



Rallan