Quote Originally Posted by leo9 View Post
This is one of the places where succesful BDSM requires a certain amount of doublethink. On one level, it can be part of the fun for both of you to treat the sub as a thing to be used for your pleasure without a thought for hir feelings. But there must always be another part of your mind that keeps aware that this is a person with feelings that matter, and watches out for them.
True. I would just like to add that it goes both ways and that subs should be mindful too, both about what they are asking for and if in a relationship, what they are asking from their dom too (doms get hurt too).
Submission too is mind-blowingly enjoyable (i like that expression ) and it can be easy to get lost in a fantasy. We all have a responsibility towards our partners, but ultimately our own welfare is our own responsibility, no matter the role we play.