i think, as long as you arent conforming to what the majority thinks is the norm, you will suffer from some degree of prejudice.

homosexuals are discriminated against in most places, some more openly then others. a fair amount of them are normal people, but for their sexual preference. once people find out about their different sexual tastes, usually they'll be like 'oh dear, does he fancy me in that sense'. and subconciously, their attitudes and behaviour will change towards that friend of theirs. and in some cases, they'll just drift apart... but sometimes, they will come to realise that no, he's still my friend, just that he doesnt like females. so in the end, it all boils down to the mentality of the person on the other end of the stick.

likewise, i think this kind of 'being looked at with concern' when you tell people you're into BDSM, is the same as the way people look upon you when you tell them 'i'm a homosexual' for instance. its the same kind of prejudice, discrimination, whatever name you want to give it.

this is because, people feel safe when they're in the majority. so anything out of the majority, they look at, as possibly bad, abnormal. its out of their 'safe zone' so they're uncomfortable with it. and once they arent comfortable with it, they try to classify it as bad or something to that tune.

that said. i have not and will not, tell anyone of my interests in this area purely because i dont ever want to be made to feel 'abnormal'. if i'm gonna feel abnormal its gonna have to be by my own choice, not because people cant accept me. it is kinda sad in a way, cos i have to keep this part of me private, but i guess its the price i have to pay

so i have a question here. what if, you fall in love with someone, who you arent sure whether he is into this as well? will you bring it up? how will you bring it up? and... what if he is totally against it? will you still stay with him? or move on and hope to find someone who can accept this side of you?