Well, I'm a bit confused. Not enough information... it's too generalized.

Your first attempt? Are you a natural domme (meaning do you feel the need to be in control) or were you asked by a submissive to dominate him or her? Your tagline says "Sir's treasure" which implies you are the submissive in at least one relationship. Are you really a switch? (But really the same question... did your submissive inspire you to dominate him or her?)

Or are you a submissive who was asked, for the first time, to dominate someone?

Is your submissive experienced or also new to this? If new, maybe it was his (or her) fantasy which was perhaps better left as fantasy. It so often is. And if so, especially when both are new to D/s. One try is no test of anyones suitability to a D/s relationship... and even if you both are very D and s, you might discover that you are not well matched with each other in a D/s manner, despite having an otherwise excellent relationship.

Worse... if your submissive is experienced, then he or she must realize that even if you are a natural dominant, it takes time, experience, and repetition to learn how to manifest your dominance.

Once you become an experience domme, you'll understand that not all couplings work, that there are many levels of D/s, and you'll know how to adjust to make your sub really feel his or her submission to you. Even then, sometimes the chemistry just isn't there for a D/s relationship and you won't beat yourself up over it. It won't affect your self-confidence.

BUT... as a new dominant, of course it does and it is perfectly natural. We often seem aloof, but as I've said often, we put a lot of energy and emotion into our relationships. When they fail, it can be devastating. Sometimes experience merely lets us put up a brave front.

S don't beat yourself up over this... but I (we?) would indeed like more information. Assuming you would like more feedback, please answer the questions I've embedded in this response.

Thanx in advance