well,after a night of talking we finnaly working things out :-) . the issue was,she was doing it for me,not becuase she wanted to do it for herself. i finnaly understand. i am proud of her to step up and try. so for now we will keep trying and mby some day she will find the evil woman inside her and we will start to be more open to each other. and thanks to all..i look forward to my next time i get to tie her up