Anal Play

[mistresscj]

Im trying to figure out how to introduce anal play to my sub. We have talked about it but I dont know how or what I should use to go about doing this. Help pls

[fetishdj]

There is a lot of debate about the best way to achieve this so a lot of it depends on what you want to do. My advice is to start small and work up and get his feedback at every stage.

Assuming you are ok with this, a good place to start is a lubed finger. Gloved for safety. Small enough not to hurt and will make him relax about the whole issue. Once you have got over that hurdle, building up to larger toys over time should be easy.

[shyslut]

alot of people have fears over being "dirty" so light enema play can be included too or instructions for them to do it.

[Master?]

1) Lots of lube.
2) a finger or small vib
3) do it in a way where he controls how fast and how far it goes in
4) patience

[Master?]

Just realized - my last post made an assumption that we are talking about his ass :-)

[DomBob]

In a cold conversation, anal play sounds painful and embarrassing. But when warmed up - its a different story.

You cannot do anal play if a sub has expressly said it is one of their limits.

But try this: Get the sub in a kneeling position. Stroking the genitals and apply lube. Then with a gloved finger - lube their rose. After a few minutes it will feel ticklish and good. (If the sub's hips are moving - they are turned on.) Then position your finger in the center and ASK, not order, the sub to push back. Dont let them fully impale themselves but then make them pull forward. Back/forth/back/forth. This way they are in control and can stop when they reach that spot that hurts.

Limit yourself to 1 finger the first time or two. Eventually you can order them to relax and move up to 2 fingers.

Once this becomes part of your normal scenes (or weekend play), then you can introduce some plugs.

[BryansGrrrl]

I would like to add that if you have long fingernails BE CAREFUL or use something else.

[brwneydgirl]

I would like to add that if you have long fingernails BE CAREFUL or use something else.

I second that vote.

[mistresscj]

Thanks everyone! We had a couple of drinks the other night (not so much that we didnt know what was goin on) and started messing around and one finger led to two fingers that lead to a vibrater...everything worked out perfectly thanks for all your help