thank you all for your help, ive really really appreciated it. today i told her that i believe it best we start as equals, friends that way she will be able to better trust me and her position with her husband. ive also told her the the domination is more to please our Master/Sir. that i am a sub and am on very unsteady ground. that i dont know what im doing and will trust her to help me as much as he does along the road. lets hope this helps. thank you ladies soooooo much