Thanking you all for your replies. I hope this thread may be continued, where other women can post their perceptions as well (apart from me). I think a lot of women (and men) not only find it difficult to express their 'deepest' (maybe dark?) thoughts on what really makes them tick to people they meet, and in some cases one can get to know someone over a period of time and find that upon revealing those elements the dynamics might change for the positive or negative in some cases, and sometimes they unfortunately may come across people in the course of 'dating' etc, that often make out they are something they're not. So this post isn't essentially something I put up 'for me', but hopefully it can be useful for other women that have a similar outlook/preference.

I have come across people in the real world that might joke about the subject of BDSM or they associate it with 15 minutes in the 'sack' tying up their lover.. some people find it really 'weird'..there are different attitudes out there or sometimes it doesn't even come up in the conversation between friends, lovers and partners. As for my attitude to it all, the main thing is that it's something that requires a lot of self knowledge, coming face to face and being able to face one's inner desires. Depending on the person, those people that are 'afraid' or 'label' everything or just can't put their finger on why they aren't satisfied often are at a crossroads..or it's like they are directionless..

In the last few weeks..coming closer and closer to the 'realisation' of what I wanted, it has been like walking into
a different thought process which was effortless. It's like feeling immense relief, because I feel like I've ticked one thing off the list now, and I don't have to 'search' within myself.


It's important to be true to oneself in the end, whichever direction that leads.

so once again, thanks