Several years ago I was asked to find out what was wrong with a couple's relationship. They had lived together for a year and after they were married his sexual interest went down to zero. She was puzzled, hurt, in a turmoil and asked me to get him alone and try to find out. I took him out for a beer and after a few I asked "How are you and her getting along."

Took a bit of questioning but he related to me a particular problem in his vanilla work life that threw him off.

I told his wife and she was elated to know there was a reason so they could deal with it.

Knowing men, I would say go naked and carry a sandwich.