Dominant loopholes

[denuseri]

Dear Fiesty

I’ve stayed out of this thread for good reason. Grins.

(Only kidding I actually was looking for a way to frame my response while I gave some of the dominants a chance to respond first)

I am spirited myself to say the least.

It is imho expected "typical" anthropological behavior to test limits in all dominance hierarchies including bdsm ones; consciously or otherwise (especially between a dominant and submissive who are new to each other).

It is also a common practice for some, especially so in the particular form of bdsm/life philosophy that my Owner and I practice, to challenge each other on occasion throughout the relationship, in fact there is considered to be something wrong if it doesn’t happen from time to time.

Dominion must be tempered over time like steel, submission must be enforced and actively… lest one become complacent or weak and find themselves enthralled at the feet of one's own slave instead ...and a spirited kajira is not expected to give quarter in this, nor does her Master wish for anything less.

Such behavior is even considered ritually significant for some and follows certain protocols. It keeps us both; Master and slave alike, strong.

The best slave is not necessarily the most subservient, nor the most willful, in our view but what fits right for those involved. Too much of one or the other can spoil the mix for some. A happy medium somewhere in-between is often the most desirable. Where that happy medium lays for you, will be determined between you and the one who manages to hold dominion over you is my guess.

My Owner's lash tells me well enough what is too much or too little in this regard.

But that is not the only way we talk.

We actually sit down and discuss things at length and in great detail all the time (well he sits while I kneel lol) the point is that we both are on the same page in the above, its part of who we are, we communicate to each other, no one is playing a game with the other where one partner is ignorant as to the others intentions in this etc.

I highly recommend that you and yours make open honest communication paramount in your lives as well.

If your dominant is new or otherwise do not assume he can read your mind...nor you his.

I pray that the two of you shall have a long and fruitful journey together.

Respectfully

denuseri