Fiestyslave,
If you really want this relationship to work, ask yourself (be honest) what, specifically it is that you want out of it. Do you want him to punish you? Is that why you break down the D/s bonds? If so, perhaps you should look for more constructive ways to get a punishment. (Others with more experience might give you ideas if you ask nicely. I will offer up my idea in the spirit of goodwill.) Perhaps you could try asking him (not during a scene) if he would please consider giving you a spanking. Don't be a brat if he says no. That is his decision. You can offer up your needs, wants, desires for him... but it is only an offering. He chooses whether or not to take your offering.

In your example of having a "blanket permission" to go to the bathroom, what about that made you want to break down his efforts? Were you disappointed to have this freedom? Did you want him to have more direct control over your bodily functions? THAT part is what you need to communicate to him. If you are simply going to look for "loopholes" in his Domination, please realize what you are essentially telling him: he has made an error, he is doing something wrong. That is a cruel way to undermine someone. Think of it in an emotionally abusive light and ask yourself what you really want to do. I am assuming that you care about him and simply haven't stopped to consider your actions (or reactions) and their implications. It is not too late to approach him, confess to what you have been doing, apologize and discuss better ways to interact in the future. I hope this journey works out well for both of you. Good luck.