I think it is because males are always competitive and if you can channel that into a safe outlet then it makes things easierGlad it helped, anyway...
Probably wise if it is not that overt. Just bear in mind that it could border on official harrassment (from either direction) so at some point, if it gets more overt, you may have to take pre-emptive steps.As for confronting the male at work, I think I will continue to try to simply not respond as best as possible and see what happens. There hasn't been anything overly inappropriate so far, and now that my sub knows, I feel so much less guilty and now I think it will just make the day rather entertaining.