Quote Originally Posted by Jennifer Williams View Post
So even if a dominant decides they want to do something that they know the sub likes, they need to present it in a way that still keeps all of the power of the situation in the dominant's hands. That was what I meant by "trick"- that is the hardest part of being a dominant.
I can understand that a dominant can initiate an action that the sub enjoys and still retain their dominance. I was questioning the need for the dominant to provide "the illusion that it is really what You [the dominant] want and what You crave."(emphasis mine)