i myself love some things my Master loves to do to me and others it is hard for me to cope with. i love being flogged, cropped, even the flicker whip...hate being caned. my Master has reserved caning for punishment for big issues for that very reason. i have learned in some positions to submit to pain better, like being bent over the bed while suspension positions are so much harder. my Master has been happy to work with me while teaching me more tolerance in somethings and also respecting me as an individual within that framework.