Just want my first post here to be a good one To the above reply by Gary Wilcox, right on! At least, that's what I've had a great deal of trouble conveying to m"Love...he's beginning to get the idea, though. It's taken a huge amount of time for him to realize that this is (between the two of us) a real expression of caring, love and understanding to me. Once he got that, and explored what it really meant to him, everything has gotten better! So if the guy has any desire at all in him to top, I think sometimes he might need to really KNOW (and have time to believe it) what it means to you.