Domme/Dom v M/F

[Flaming_Redhead]

It happens to me a lot at the dungeon I frequent where everyone knows I'm a switch. When I go outside to smoke, nearly every man there tries to light my cigarette. My take on this phenomenon is that there are truly very few alpha males who are inclined to be responsible for another person. Many of the so-called dominants are really just tops which is why a dom/dom relationship would appeal to them. They're looking for an equal partner in life, and strong women are attractive. That's my 2 cents, anyway.

[Miner]

It happens to me a lot at the dungeon I frequent where everyone knows I'm a switch. When I go outside to smoke, nearly every man there tries to light my cigarette. My take on this phenomenon is that there are truly very few alpha males who are inclined to be responsible for another person. Many of the so-called dominants are really just tops which is why a dom/dom relationship would appeal to them. They're looking for an equal partner in life, and strong women are attractive. That's my 2 cents, anyway.

Perhaps you misread the action? I would light a lady's cigarette without a second thought, and when I smoked, I did so frequently - for dommes and female switches. It is indeed a power thing, I think, but not one where I submit in doing so. It's more along the lines of me dominating a female smoker, by treating her like a (helpless) lady.

I think you'll find that a lot.

[Flaming_Redhead]

Perhaps you misread the action? I would light a lady's cigarette without a second thought, and when I smoked, I did so frequently - for dommes and female switches. It is indeed a power thing, I think, but not one where I submit in doing so. It's more along the lines of me dominating a female smoker, by treating her like a (helpless) lady.

I think you'll find that a lot.

It's a Southern gentleman thing and also an attempt to get my attention. I would hardly view treating me like a lady as domination of any kind, unless it's me dominating them. I find it amusing that a dominant would ignore the obvious submissives out there to try to fill up my dance card instead by using flattery or even a dare. You know what they say. Sex is power.