Quote Originally Posted by Silke
Just passing on something my domly one told me the other day when I asked him what he was looking for in a woman...and among other things he said he's looking for a strong woman. Sounds strange at first glance coming from a dom, eh? But it does make sense. The balance of having a strong, independant woman that chooses to submit to one person only, makes it even more of a gift, doesn't it?
I'm not going to go over what eveyone has said...everyone has given great advice....but one thing that Silke said that got my attention.

I am a submissive...I love who I am! I am not weak. Most of you have seen my posts and what I have written. Some may have been wrong..but I think, all of you can tell I am a strong woman and will stick up for myself.

Just because you are submissive doesn't mean you can't be strong too. I think, it's through my journey of submission that I have been able to be strong and become stronger. I am not a doormat.

No giving myself to a dominant doesn't make me weak....I gain strength because of his control of me. I am able to be more for him and me because of the domination.

OK...my thoughts....

Kelly (love the name btw)

I have trouble saying no because I don't want to hurt the other's feeling or don't want to cause waves....but you know, I've found that sometimes, they want you to say no. You need and should say no at times, show who you are and your dom will work with that to bring out the best in you.

Remember...trust is everything in these relationships. If you don't trust yourself or your dom..your relationship will not prosper. Communicate with your dom about your thoughts...why you feel you can't say no....you might be amazed at the reaction..this could actually improve your relationship.


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