Quote Originally Posted by anxious girly View Post
Guera, payed attention to in what sense?
you stop whatever you are doing, to give this object (real or conceptual) your undivided attention. For instance, I enjoy holding my him by his hair. Not a fetish, I can get on with life without holding his hair. An example of a fetish with me.. a little hard to identify, I am not very fetishistic or religious, but... I don't think I could stop spanking him (within normal limits) if I didn't get some really nice color/marks. If I tried to stop I would probably have to go back and restart, until I had marks I liked. So that would be a fetish.