I was giving from my perspective, both in my experience with submissives who have doubts about their participation in the lifestyle, and about how I knew this was for me. I was aware it was for submissives, but thought it was a good overall question that everyone could enjoy posting to.

In the future please chastise me privately.
I apologize if I came across harsh, it wasn't meant that way. Just thought that the paranoia bit was a huge step from the info given, but maybe I didn't quite understand you properly there. I really hope you weren't offended by my remark about this being a question for subs/slaves - I know we've all cross posted all over the place (me too )...that's why I put this - - at the end. Sorry, if it didn't come across that way to you.

Since kelly wants input from all sides as it is I've moved the thread to the general section of the Knowledge Base. Just so you get the optimal input, kelly.

And kelly - you don't sound like a nutter at all...and I'd love to hear more of your thoughts or experiences on this. Don't be shy, darling.