I usually get castigated on these threads, but whatever...that never stopped me before.

I’m a love atheist. I don’t believe love is real. I think it’s instinct and social calculation that makes people bond with each other. There is no mystical or supernatural love, there is no "the one"...its brainwashing. Love is real as much as Valentine's Day is a real Holliday, . Only the processes of the brain, that produces the "feeling of love" is scientific.

Once the "hormonal crazines" wears off, at best, what you are left is caring for another person. Love only goes so far- many people 'love' one another for personal gain, such as the relief of loneliness or boredom, or an increase in status, popularity, etc. The number one reason people stay married is Money.

I have the same emotions as other people but I don’t kid myself into thinking that Love is a real emotion. We all care about well being of people close to us, but it doesnt mean there is any real love. Because Love doesnt exist.

Love is any of a number of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong affection and attachment. The word can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure to intense interpersonal attraction. It is not a single feeling but an emotion built from two or more feelings. And it is not permanent.

Once we have couple of feelings of affection and possibly passion we get an urge to say the words in order to bind the other person with us. Why? Codependence.

Children can't truly love their parents, children are naturally very selfish. They don't become aware of other people's needs until they are older. A baby cries because it wants something, a toddler throws fits because it wants something, and requires someone to fulfill its needs. It grows fond of the parent because it fulfills its needs. "Romantic" bond is no different, we grow fond of the person who fulfills our needs.

One of my favourite sayings is, "Its a good thing they had placed Love into books, because that is the only place where its possible."