LadyVet:
For you and me, I think what you say is very true. Being submissive to one's SO has little to do with how one lives the rest of one's life but for some that is far from true. Being submissive and living with that knowledge also means taking responsibility for yourself and your choices, ....*grin * ....and it is very apparent from your writing that you do, but for some, especially novice subs, that idea is foreign. They see being submissive as never taking responsibility when the opposite is in fact truer. Being sub also means acknowledging that nothing in life is stagnant. Everyone changes and every relationship changes too. When you are dealing with BDSM or D/s it is vital that all the people involved acknowledge that the potential for serious problems and abuses does exists. It is my heartfelt belief that trust must be a basic building block in every intimate relationship. Having said that, trust is even more important in a D/s relationship. Contracts and safe words are a vital part of that trust.The Dom trusts the sub to not misuse the Stop sign and the sub trusts that while the Dom might push the set limits they will not step over the line. For any relationship to work the lines of communications must be open otherwise disaster is a very real possibility.

patsub:…love, normal is boring, so if your planning a trip to the nuthouse can I come along for the ride?