I often have the feeling of being "damaged goods". It is not something I confide in people, because due to my looks and overachiever reputation, most would rubbish it. It is nonetheless something I have to fight almost daily.

It is not the reason why I am a sub. So yes, even if I were "perfect" I would still be submissive and seek this type of relationship.

I admit that Hubby has often used "scenes" to convey to me things, when words were not enough. But I think every couple has their special way of communicating and we have elevated playing mind games and analyzing each other to the level of foreplay. So again, even if we were "perfect" we would simply find another way of fucking with each other.