Quote Originally Posted by Pearlgem View Post
I might have thought I understood it once but fail completely to understand it now why sub after sub (in general, not getting at anyone in particular here) invariably stresses the point that she's the strong/feisty/bratty/challenging type, the implication being that there will be the presumption otherwise that she's a pushover or that submission equals weakness. I know that subs do what they do through desire not weakness. Doms know this. Subs know it too. Kinksters in general know it. So why are we constantly implying even amongst ourselves that if we don't state otherwise we'll be labelled 'weak'? This is a vanilla misconception about our lifestyle and we're not vanilla.

I long for the day I see a sub post begin, 'I am a doormat...' at least being out and proud about it!
im a sub/slave to my master and proud of it...with him im non-challenging, ive given him total surrender, rarely bratty (only in play) and would NEVER seek to disrespect him

i do this because i love him, plain and simple...but still if someone disrespected him, and if for some reason he couldnt defend himself, i would do so in a heart beat......not because i have to show that im strong/feisty/ bratty etc but because he means the world to me....as i know he would do the same for me, whether in a vanilla situation or kink

i was a doormat for my ex husband...its different to being a sub, you have no control, no self esteem and i would never want to be like that again and my master wouldnt want me to be