I've found my D/s trigger...

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BDSM to me is VERY much in the mind, but i think that all sex is (or isn't). i've had my share of partners (and probably some other people's shares, too lol). but only with a handful do i get that kind of cum. over the past week, i think i realized why/how, which i hope will allow me to find it easier. it's ALL about trust for me. there's an explicit trust contract that goes with BDSM. that's why there's talk of lines and limits. i don't do safe words in r/l because i only do r/l with people that i trust FULLY. when i trust, i get a much better cum. i can get right to the edge all in my head. with the right r/l people, i go over the edge on site - if allowed. if i don't trust, i can get off, but it's just physical and not nearly as satisying.
good luck in your search.
itgirl

No matter how much trust, safety and common sense require that there ALWAYS be a safe word. No matter how much trust, accidents can happen, and your DOM may not be aware of what a particular scene is doing to you, either physically or mentally.

[ITGirl]

No matter how much trust, safety and common sense require that there ALWAYS be a safe word. No matter how much trust, accidents can happen, and your DOM may not be aware of what a particular scene is doing to you, either physically or mentally.

Safe words always felt dishonest to me... I know the arguments for them, I just can't get my head around them.