Quote Originally Posted by Resist;792670
My feeling is that this word, this title of respect, gets thrown around too often and too easily, and subsequently loses the intended depth of respect. For example, I see subs calling doms they've never spoken to before "Sir", as a sort of [I
default setting[/I]. I'm not trying to judge this--I'm simply trying to understand if it genuinely adds to the BDSM experience, or, as I hypothesize, detracts from it. My initial reaction is that "Sir" should be something a sub earns the right to call a dom--not an easy "Yes, I'm submissive," sign.

Thoughts?
Let me preface this by saying I haven't read past this post. For the simple reason the part now in bold/yellow caught my attention.

Not to be difficult... but I think the "earning" of the title goes opposite, in some ways, of how this was presented.

Yes, I am sub, but why should I have to earn the right to call any Larry/Moe/Curly "Sir?" True they don't know me but the flip side of that means I don't know them either. And unlike some I don't use the word Sir (Ma'am, etc.) at random. For me to use it means that it has to come naturally, from the soul, just as the term "Master/Mistress" does. Which means that the dominate person in question has to "earn" my respect as well, it isn't something that is automatically given to everyone just because they have the ability to create an ID and fill in a space saying they are dominate. That doesn't fly with me.

And before I'm jumped on for being "disrespectful" for that train of thought.... There is a difference between polite (using their chosen id to address them) and respect (as stated above.)

Just my 2 cents.