The Arbitrary Sir

[damyanti]

Hi guys how is everyone's new year?
This is the protocol I was explained when I first got into the lifestyle in the 70"s lol

Dominates should be call Sir/Ma'am for the respect of being a dominate.

Now the term Master/Mistress is used only in 2 case's first case is the slave call her Dominate Master/Mistress only because that is what they are too them everyone else call's them sir/Ma'am.
Now the second case that some one is called Master/Misstress is if they a Expert in something like rope bondage the whip etc.. But when they are introduced as say Master John he is a expert in the whip. Then everyone should gave him the respect and call Him Master John.

So if your in a club in chat or a D/s M/s setting yes you should give resoect too all Dominate by calling then Sir/Ma'am. They should not tell you too cal them Master or Misstress unless you are there slave.

This is a very good post and it does make sense, but here is where I see a glitch....I am assuming this comes from "Old Guard" philosophy, before Internet, in reference to r/l community where everyone has been through proper initiation and or training and has consented to that and subscribes to that philosophy...so essentially by implication all participants have some kind of "relationship" in regards to each other (even if they had never met before).

BDSM "community" today isn't where it was 5-10 years ago and compared to where it was 30-40 years ago, I believe, is unrecognizable. The Internet changed things, our society in general has become more lax about what it finds appropriate, BDSM has become (if not mainstream) more visible to general public and acceptable to those more open minded....and in response to social changes BDSMers have become less "conservative", more inclusive, open to everyone who wants to experiment, there is no prescribed training or protocols that apply to everyone,....with so many variables to have a set in stone detailed list of protocols is virtually impossible. Sure it has its drawbacks (one of it being it attracts a lot of fakes, trolls...basically a lot of characters who don't understand this, whose intention is to abuse and exploit those who extend them welcome and trust, from get go), but to paraphrase Churchill, it is the worst form of "government" except all the others that have been tried.