Quote Originally Posted by jeanne View Post
Keeping vital information to ourselves, and then placing ourselves in a situation that could cause some unexpected consequences, is an awful thing to do.
I think the key word is unexpected - many people never know how they'll react to a given situation until they find themselves in it. I also think it depends on the type of information being shared & the comfort level with the person it's being shared with. Medical information, at least at a basic level, would likely be necessary to share - you can't blame someone for hanging you from the ceiling if you never told him about your broken wrist...

But the type of information to be shared & especially its depth depend on the person it's being given to & how well you know & trust that individual. As an example, most of my friends know I hate, almost to the point of phobia, pointed toe cowboy boots. While I may take some shit for having such a seemingly silly dislike, they don't feel a need to push me about it or deliberately wear them to bother me. But of that whole group, only 2 people know the reason behind my hatred stems from an incident when I was 12, taking on a drunk man a foot taller & a hundred pounds heavier, keeping him from dragging my cute blond 12yo friend up to his hotel roorm, buying time for her to run away. Those damned boots do a number on your ribs once you're down on the ground...

My point is that not everyone needs to know the underlying reasons behind my hatred, just accept & respect that it is something I don't like. And if I like & trust the person enough, I'll tell them the full story.