Quote Originally Posted by Pearlgem View Post
I think any abuse probably has to be deliberate - the Dom/me is a wannabe, is criminally lacking in knowledge, s/he knows but just doesn't care how badly the sub reacts or s/he refuses to acknowledge refusal. I think subs can abuse Doms by not telling them the truth about themselves. I don't believe abuse is anything to do with extreme play per se.
Excellently stated, especially the deliberate and refusal aspects. Those are the blanks I couldn't fill in for myself. Thank you.
Quote Originally Posted by cadence
A submissive should do something because they consent to try it, not because someone else told them to.
Exactly that as well. Keeps the "idiot" factor, as it were, completely at bay.