Physical strength

[Veralynne]

I think Rachel's response really says it all here about the necessity of physical strength. Dominance is usually always about the mental aspect when it comes to surrendering your will to another person.

With that said, I love the physical aspect and it is important to me, personally, in terms of losing control. I enjoy being beaten and held down by a man's pure body weight, so it would be difficult for me if I was physically stronger than him. My Master and I are both fans of using bare hands (vs. ropes, implements, etc.), so His physical ability to both force and hold me down on the bed and beat the shit out of me are something I am very thankful for.

As a caveat, this is a luxury I am easily able to afford, being only 5'2", small, and purposefully weak. I used to be rather strong in high school playing sports, etc., but I found that I preferred to be slimmer and weaker for just this reason- enjoying the feeling of a man more fully overpowering me.

[Lisais mine]

you know, it's kind of funny to me. from a purely physical standpoint, i'm only 5'10", about 180 pounds. but i am a lifelong martial artist, and I have extensive knowledge of human anatomy- it is fairly easy for me to control the body of someone considerably larger than myself.

Like everyone said, domming isn't about size or strength of arm. it's about strength of will, and desire to submit.

[markus_valtion]

i dont realy use my strenght. cause i'm not that strong :P. but its not imprtant. its the way you use it. i'm pretty quick and that works great. and if i cant hold her down cause she is stronger i just tie her up and then she can struggle all she wants.

[claire]

My on-line Dom was a paraplegic. We talked about physical strength. He transfered his 6'2" 250lb self from his wheel chair to bed etc. Hence he had quite a bit of upper body strength. We talked about the physical strength aspect of it hoping that one day we would be together in real life (it never happened). I out weigh him, so we figured I would have a weight and mobility advantage if we wrestled, however he obviously had superior upper body strength. He also had the force of will.

I think Lisais Mine has it right too. That it is physically possible for a smaller person to control a larger person.

The idea of my Dom being able to physically control me is a big turn on for me. I am not likely to find someone that out weighs me, but most men regardless of height are stronger than me. I don't know if I would be able to submit to a Dom that I didn't think could have that physical control - although with a forceful personality it might not matter. I also don't think I could submit to a Dom who is too much younger than me - I am not sure in that situation that the force of personality would be enough - I would probably just think of him as a macho cub and not take him seriously.