Quote Originally Posted by voxelectronica View Post
In my experience....

I've found that even male Doms message me from time to time wanting to switch. They end up admitting that they feel more comfortable with a switch as well.

Also I only talk to people who are interested in only actually submitting. So, I haven't encountered this idea of scripting so much.

What I think is the culprit to this phenomena?

I think it's two fold. People I talk to aren't to keen on being "found out" and consider this part of them to be very *very* private and aren't keen on setting up even an online persona. Though some will get themselves out there via more profile driven websites they don't make it a point to share their opinions.

I also think (and this may get me in trouble) that a lot of men aren't communicators. Going into a forum is a very social communication type thing and it's simply not what appeals to men. Though there are of course exceptions to this. I think that's a factor.

I think, rather than being a communication thing, it's a control thing. In our society, boys are taught to lead and be in control... so even the "submissive" ones come expecting to "lead". The "script" is actually the fantasy they want fulfilled... not a script per se.

We're missing the point... it's easily described if a female sub tries this... we just don't think to apply the words to male subs who are in fact, Topping from the bottom.