You Down With OPP?

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HI
Puuhh.
I think you have several different issues here.

1) the relationship with your friends.
2 Do you say 'no' so there is no doubt?
3) the general feeling of getting bothered because you are not with a man.

To take 1 and 2, I get the feeling that you sometimes go further than you would like, but now that the relationship with VM is developing again you want your friends to respect that this is the case, and that you are off limit.

Would it help to be very very clear on this now?? After all they have been able to lure you before, and so might well need a blunt message about where you are right now.

As for 3, I think many women would agree that this is a very general problem!!

Still I see different situations: If you are in a dungeon, I do not think it odd or wrong that people ask you to play. I mean, that is what it is for, right?
But pressing against you on the dance floor without an invitation, or grapping at the pool table, that is so tiresome!!

All I can say is a good, pointed elbow accompanied by 'scram' has helped me the most, if people cannot understand a polite 'no thanks'.

The only place I have almost never encountered this rude behaviour is on bdsm camps ;-)) People learn how to behave there..

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While I was dating someone else, they approached me to engage in another threesome. I explained that I was only allowed to play with females, not that I'm bisexual or anything. They, again, seemed to understand. However, whilst topping the female, her husband kept trying to get me to do more. Since I knew the guy I was dating wasn't going to work out, I have to admit that I did a little more than I should have but firmly refused to have intercourse.

Then, VodooMan and I got back together. They already know he doesn't share, and they also know how I feel about him. the husband came up behind me and began rubbing his crotch against my ass. It was fine...sort of...until I felt his hard-on.

[quote}Recently, the wife called to ask if I'd be interested in pole dancing at her husband's birthday party. I was floored. I told her I didn't know what our plans were for the weekend, which is the truth. [/quote]

It's not just them, either. I was trying to shoot some pool at the bar when the guys I was playing with decided to grab my ass. I can't go out on the dance floor without someone humping my leg.

I can't go to the dungeon without someone asking me to play. I can't go anywhere or do anything! It doesn't matter if I'm polite or rude. They all want to know where my man is.

The problem, if you can call it that, is that my relationship with VoodooMan is as yet undefined. In the beginning, I didn't mind these little annoyances so much. My sister is of the opinion that it's really none of his business what I do right now and that I don't have to tell him anything. However, the longer I'm with him, this feeling of inappropriateness gets stronger and stronger.

I feel like people should respect the fact that I'm "with" someone irregardless of whether or not I have a ring on my finger or a collar on my neck. Of course, I'm perfectly aware that these symbols would more than likely be ignored by quite a few. It's my responsibility to protect his property when he is not with me, but what if I'm not technically his property?