I am new to bdsm in general (in fact have never done anything along the lines) but I fantasize frequently. The problem is (and I'm having an extremely difficult time with this) I'm a guy and since I'm straight it's hard for me to imagine being appealling at all in this way to someone else. I somehow don't really believe that anyone would want to play with me, it only seems sexy to submit if you're a woman but not if you're a man. This is especially true because my secret desire is anal...and I feel like nobody could possibly want to do that to me...

Anyway, I would love to hear thoughts from other people about this. Does anyone else share my insecurities? Are there any women who can confirm that, indeed, they are interested in anal play and I'm being naive?

Just to confirm, I'm not fishing for partners with this, I promise! Just looking for feedback this since I don't know anyone in r/l to talk to.

Thanks in advance =)