Sigh....I'll add pertinent information as the general perception appears to be that I don't want to try certain "kinks".

The Dominant in question prefers a female who wear heels, loves bondage, is of a certain size, willing to play in public and outgoing as it relates to functions. These topics are mentioned in almost every conversation I have with this Dom and we've been talking for over a year. Suffice it to say, I feel that these things are very important to him whether he recognize it or not.

I have severe nerve damage and can no longer wear heels. Bondage may cause issues due to the nerve damage and it's not worth the risk. I'm a bit over his "ideal" size. I'm not outgoing as I have little tolerance for group things. I made him aware of these things within our first few conversations.

Not that I'm contemplating a relationship with him, but if a something did occur, in the back of my mind it would appear that he "settled" for me as I can easily move between vanilla and kink. As I've dealt with this issue in a previous vanilla relationship, it's not something I will ever try again.

The fact remains, why would someone attempt a relationship with someone with whom even their basic "wants" and needs will not be met?

I apologize if my original post was confusing in any way.

Thanks again for all the responses.