i know i cannot speak for all submissives on this subject, but i'll be glad to relate my own personal opinion on this. In talking with other submissives, i've often found that we (along with myself) are often very strong minded, goal oriented people during our day to day life. Myself, i've always been into management in my career and most of my vanilla relationships have been with me as the "stronger" of the two partners. My family describes me as "assertive, controling (imagine that........lol), a go-getter that doesn't let anything stand in her way, fiercely independant, etc." To me, this is what makes my submission so special.

I am all of the things my family states. So when i find that special someone that i trust above all others and turn the control that i hold onto so tightly over to Him, can you imagine how very special that is??? And to be honest, after assuming all that responsibility day in and day out........how lovely would it be to let someone else shoulder some of that? To me, being a strong, independant woman does not negate your submissiveness.........it simply makes it that much more special and something to be truly treasured by the One that is lucky enough to earn it *smiles*