Faith,

Being submissive to one's SO has little to do with how one lives the rest of one's life unless one needs someone to completely take over one's life. I, too work and I'm very competitive. My husband/Master gives me plenty of room in my professional life. I happily relinquish my private life to Him.

You might find writing from the male POV an interesting stretch. Give it a try. No one will know how your effort turns out unless you share it.

I enjoy writing developing a variety of characters with different orientations living in unusual situations. The mental stretching keeps my brain, perspective and libido fresh.