Dear novice,

I red your interesting considerations and my answer is that you have definitely a submissive potential ... so yes, you are "a BDSM person".

Yes, I would say, there are many different levels and perspectives in BDSM .... every person is different, even if similar desires and fantasies arise in different persons.

I would also add that besides different tastes and preferencies, there is generally an evolution in each person's erotic tastes and habits that comes along with experience and practice... so that in a future you may do and enjoy something you would consider absolutely unattractive or even non-acceptable right now.

The evolution or escalation of BDSM plays will not depend solely from you, but very much from the interaction between you and your partner, or partners, in your present and future sentimental and sexual life.

Feelings (sentiments), love, the desire to please the loved person, can and will play an important role in all this ... and you may discover a lot more about yourself and about what you really like.

In ten years of loving relation between my former slave caroline and me, we did an incredible amount of miles together discovering new aspects of the game and trying things we never would have even mentioned in the first times of our story ...

We never did anything dangerous (apart from underestimating some whip, so that sometimes she had to bear some marks for longer than forecasted) ... but we did really almost everything of what you can read or see on the BDSM scene.

But caroline was a particular case, as she had a strong resistance to pain. Other slaves will never endure some of the things she did, but will nevetheless enjoy their submission, perhaps with less pain and more enphasis on discipline, or bondage or humiliations or sexual acts. Still they are all definitely submissives and into the general BDSM play.

I also remember a case of a very true slave-girl that has been exploring BDSM for years under the guide of her dominating husband, that has been very much on painful submission at the beginning of her BDSM history and slowly moved over to a BDSM vision more focused on being rented, used and very strongly humiliated. She would still accept some sound whipping, but just incidentally ... her preference would be being exposed to strangers, serve them, lick them ,clean them and so on...

From what I red, you BDSM experience, at the moment, is limited to fantasies and self-play .... the big step is when you start plaing with a real partner.

kindes regards

Kurt