Nice try, bbeale, but Viagra doesn't work that way.
And red32? You're already IN a dominant/submissive relationship. It isn't much fun, is it? In a good D/S relationship, the sub enjoys herself as much as her partner does.
If you're working 70 hours a week, maybe you can support yourself. Counseling is a good idea, and a trial seperation may be called for. As Ann Landers would have asked, "Are you better off with him, or without him?" It sounds like you'd be better off without.
Good luck.