OK this may be a bit obvious...tell him. I don't mean to sound condescending here, it’s a common problem when new to the lifestyle for nearly everyone. Allot of time and energy will be spared if you simply set him down and tell him your fantasies and that he is the fantasy man. I have posted this before but it’s worth repeating…men suck at hints, even ones that seem obvious. Kink.com has some great bondage stuff download a couple that appeal to you, watch them with him (men are very visual) and comment in the scene “wow that’s hot…I like that…I would love you to do that to me.” If it’s something your not into let him know that as well. The point is communicate, being on this site for almost two years I’m almost 100% sure that is going to be the overwhelming advice you are going to get.

He’s new, your new you have to explore this together. For the most part we men (particularly in new relationships) look to the woman to set the boundaries and step into them very carefully. Do both of you a favor, blow the doors open…let him know what you want.

Good Luck!