All humans were not created equal, and thankfully so. We were all born different, but with equal rights and worth. One thing guaranteed to make me bristle is people who scornfully conclude that being submissive makes you second class. Dominant is independent from submissive about as much as the brain is of the rest of the body that feeds him. Are submissives so easily replaceable that they are expandable? I always knew that I was lucky Tristan chose me and that what we have is well balanced and special, but I am only beginning to realize just how lucky as I learn exactly how much he protected me from. World is filled with callus jackasses who put up a domineering front, thinking that makes them impenetrable to questioning and gives them the right to abuse and mistreat women, labeling submissives easy pray. Sadly, they often get away with it. A lot of them are just posers who think submissives are easy lay, a great deal of them are malicious losers, but
there is also a significant number of budding Dominants who just don't know any better.
It seems to me, that we all, Dominants and submissives alike, are burdened by misconceived perceptions of how we should act. Until I began reading up on my own I didn't have any, I simply did what came naturally. Sexually at least, I am what he has made me.
We didn't begin incorporating physical aspects of BDSm until about a year into our relationship, but from day one we had D/s dynamic. I had fell into it naturally, without realizing what I was doing. Years later he confessed that it was that way for him too, he had no conscious intention of starting BDSM relationship with me, it was just always that way with us.
Anyone can put you in chains and whip you until you surrender, its easy to understand logic of it. But what eludes me to consciously comprehend and what fascinates me about Him, is the ability to make me obey with the barest of whispers, with the look in his eyes, with just the force of his being. I don't fear him, there is no threat of losing him if I refuse, I know I am safe to trust him, so what makes me obey then, why do I voluntarily put myself through things that cause physical and emotional discomfort? There is a difference between surrendering and submitting. When we are alone, everything else is just background noise; social norms carry no weight, its just us. Yin and Yang.