Quote Originally Posted by her_Joe
Great post, indeed. As SW knows from that "other site," I'm not at all convinced that what the TIH folk say and what they do makes a solid correlation. In fact, even more important, they disagree entirely on what makes a relationship ... whether, for example, the woman of the house should be spanked at his discretion, or whether she should accept it each time with the freedom to refuse it if she's not "in the mood," or whether she should allow it to happen at all. For most of the folk in TIH, iirc, other BDSM activities are not included at all. It is a highly "vanilla" environment, much in the form of Ozzie and Harriett with Harriett getting an occasional paddling ... maybe. The movement itself, as practiced by its members, seems to be blatant topping from the bottom -- instead of good negotiation as this article suggests -- as it is the woman's "job" to get him (the authority) to run the household according to her ideas. He has the responsibility, but only apparent authority.

But this article is terrific, I agree. I just don't have a lot of respect for the logic of the folk in the Yahoo group I followed for some time.

Sorry, SW, I'm not trying to hijack but did want to put it in (admittedly, my) perspective.

hJ
That's ok Joe. I thought this was a good read and thought I would post it here. Your perspective is always welcome. Thanks.